Bargain

Bandeau Dress £5 (Warehouse)

Here's another bargain dress courtesy of Warehouse. I'm not sure of the original selling price but who cares it costs £5. I've always wanted a bandeau style dress and a black one would have gone down a storm, but I love a colour and was surprised at how nice the pink looked against my skin tone. I teamed this dress with my all time favourite shoobs courtesy of Primark £17 (so comfortable) and my gold chain again Primark £2. See ladies you don't have to spend vasts amount of money to look nice. I didn’t post a picture of me in my blue animal print dress. So I thought I’d give you a treat lol as pictures of me on my blog are a rarity.

 

Push

Push the novel by Sapphire has been made into a film and re-titled ‘Precious’. It’s the movie on everyone’s lips and will probably receive a few Oscars next year. I couldn't wait until February (UK opening) so opted to read the book instead. This novel is not for the faint hearted and a little disturbing in parts. Some scenes left my mouth hanging wide open and I had to shake my head on too many occasions. I definitely need to go and watch this film when it comes out.

The book tells the tale of a young girl who has two children by the age of sixteen and suffers sexual, mental and physical abuse. It’s such a harrowing tale and I really felt for Precious (the main character) you can’t help but feel empathy. It seems the world is against her and this is the time when she needed her family and friends the most but unfortunately her family wasn’t there. My faith would really begin to waver if God forbid I was to encounter a similar situation.

It just goes to show, you don't know what people are going through! Especially young kids out there who feel they don't have a voice. Seriously all we can do is pray as the world we live in is not good! Unfortunately we don't get to choose the cards that life deals. We just have to preserve and keep the faith. This story has made me think twice before I start moaning and complaining when things don't go my way.

British Men vs American Men

There's a major difference between American and British men. Anyone who has spent some time in the States will agree with me on this. US men come across so much more confident, fearless, charming and overall groomed. Whilst some if not most UK men are slightly insecure, more reserved and have a fear of rejection. I'm not trying to generalise I'm just going on my own experiences. I've found that men here may want to get to know you a bit better but fear holds them back! Come on brothers life is too short for that ish and you never know the outcome may just be yes!

I read an interesting piece by June Sarpong a few months ago and I agreed on everything she said. Everytime I go to the States I feel so loved, men holler at me to say have a good day, they be calling me chocolate lol, open doors for me, the attention is over whelming but nice (I'm just keeping it real).This did wonders for my confidence and my self esteeem went through the roof. I'm not saying that I need constant attention to feel happy, but everyone wants to feel wanted every now and then. Here in the UK I could go a whole month without a good day from a brother. British men don't generally holler as I think they worry too much about rejection, not all of them but I know a lot of guys who share this way of thinking. It's got me wondering if my future husband will be from this country? I want to have choice's and not settle for the first man that gives me a little bit of attention. Come on ladies you know you've all been guilty of this too.

I don't understand what it is?!?! I think people underestimate the power of confidence. It seems Americans have had this way of thinking instilled since birth. I've known men that have been interested in me but have been too scared to say anything....sigh!!!! I know it can't be easy, as belive me I'm not in a rush to tell a brother I think he's nice. I don't care what year it is, I still believe in the old fashioned values that men should step to a lady first (although I know us women can be hard work). It's so annoying and it's just dry so, so dry! I joke with my friends that you could live in the states for a year and you'd probably be engaged by the end of the 12 months. American men seem to know what they want and just go for it, rejection or not and I'm sure I'm not the only woman who likes this quality in a man. Yes there are British men who share this quality but unfortuantely there is a higher percentage Stateside than here. A penny for your thoughts!

Week 7 Of My Journey getting To New York.

This week I have returned to being disciplined with my money and put some funds aside for NYC. I currently have two accounts one for getting me to New York and the other is for when I get back as who knows what my financial situation will be on my return. I confess I don’t have half as much money as I would have liked at this stage so it’s imperative that I get another job. It will probably be on a weekend and some form of retail but I don't mind sacrificing my Saturday’s for a few months. The graveyard shifts that I currently do on the weekend are coming to an end and whilst I complained about them at first they have been a blessing financially.

On another note I’ve offered my services to go and talk to the youth dem at Universities. I've been wanting to give back to others for a while now and if my experiences can help others then so be it as we all know this media game is not easy! I bumped into a lecturer at work last weekend and we got talking and I explained my desire to do more public speaking. As it’s been pushed aside since my Vocal and Drama training course. So I’m set to do a talk at Kingston University before the year is out and another talk in January. I truly believe this will come in handy for when I go the States, not only does it build up my experience it will give me more confidence. If I can talk in front of a class of  adults/teenagers I don't know then surely I  can talk to the boss at Hot 97 (you'd like to think so huh).